Q: What’s it like to have sex for the first time or if you haven’t had it for a long time ?
A: Well look at it like this, if it’s the first time you are using this part of your body it’s going to be new sensation you have to accept and get used to because you are awakening muscles and tissue in an area that may have been sleeping for a while. If you are apprehensive about this, well that is absolutely normal, after all if you were to jump out of a plane for the first time with a parachute strapped to your back, you would feel some apprehension about that – wouldn’t you? Of course you would, and again completely normal. So when you have sex for the first time you are going to notice what is going on in that area but the secret is to STOP fretting and keep at it. If it’s easier for you – think of it in terms of breaking in a new pair of shoes – do you give up on the shoes ? No, so look at sex in the same context or compare it to a work out at the gym, wakening up sleeping muscles, because the more you persevere the easier it becomes. You’ve come this far so please carry on, because when you accept everything is happening because it’s simply a new experience, it will become easier. Besides can you think of a better excuse to keep practicing ‘adult’ fun ? We can’t, so ladies knuckle down and go with the flow. Remember your vagina is made to dilate to the size of a baby’s head for childbirth, because your body will do it’s job it you let it, so what’s been stopping you ? Nothing other than you, so STOP and reflect, take control and start trusting in your ability to do whatever you want.